Another
Women's Day is on its way, and we can expect a whole lot of oratory and
idolatry of women, as the nurturers of the Universe. Paeans are sung,
of her inner strength, and how the whole world is indebted to her. After
reading a few of that mushy stuff in newspapers and social media and
the usual interviews with prominent and successful women, year after
year, it almost gets boring.
It is all, such a cliché. Is this what Women's day all about??
Nowadays,
the celebration is all about the educated class, and the upwardly
mobile. There are posh clubs hosting Women's Day parties, corporate
get-together etc. It is almost akin to a festival, and those who
celebrate Women's Day are considered as the socially conscious, torch
bearers for women's rights.
Surprisingly,
the earliest Women's Day is associated with daily wage labourers from
the garment industry in New York, who participated in strikes, for equal
pay and suffrage, more than a 100 years ago. They must have been strong
women, uneducated, mired in poverty. They worked as unskilled labour,
trying to keep the wolf from the door, along with bearing and rearing
children. The Socialism of the day, did help them in their endeavours,
to a certain extent. By the end of the first world war, European nations
like Germany, Poland, Denmark had started recognizing a women's right
to vote, the Russian Revolution gave the Russian women their right to
vote. Around 1918, Britain allowed propertied women above 30, to vote.
Big
Daddy America, gave it's women, suffrage as late as 1920, after the
ratification of the 19th amendment of its constitution. So, it all
started in 1909, in a humble manner, the agitations, the protests and it
took almost a decade to materialize into something concrete. It must
have been a massive endeavour, to be recognized as a 'human being'
capable of making decisions, of choosing their future leaders and their
destiny. Those women must have thought of it as the end of an era, only
to realize, it was just the beginning.
Women
started venturing into unchartered territory, dominated by men, made
their presence felt in the field of science and technology, medicine,
management and politics. But, it has been an arduous journey, with
hurdles at every step, constantly fighting a misogynistic society.
Most
of us consider that women have got their due, but the truth is still a
far cry. In pursuit of equality, the basic essence has been lost. Women
need to learn to be more inclusive. It's not only about the successful
high flier, but about every individual, right from the house-help to the
women who cook and clean for us, the daily wage earners, to those
involved in small scale industries.... aren't these the women, who are
the true embodiment of womanhood, trying to give their children a better
future? Fighting every odd, they tread forward, burdened by the
disadvantage of poverty, hopeless living conditions and in some cases an
alcoholic husband.
Years
ago, I had a house-help, called Padma, she was more of a
friend. Sometime back her daughter landed a job in an MNC, as a software
engineer. Something, that sounds pretty mundane by today's standards,
was a giant leap for Padma and her family. This single achievement,
would redefine the future of the entire family. This is not some
fantasy, this is as true, as truth gets. My only contribution was, to
ask her to stand up against her husband and in-laws, when they wanted to
get her daughter married off. The
girl had managed to secure a decent rank, in her entrance and with the
help of her eligible quota, she managed to get a seat and also some
financial assistance from the government... the rest is history.
One
needn't be a Madame Curie, a Indira Gandhi or a Kalpana Chawla to be
celebrated. The common woman of today, faces more challenges in her
every day life, than any of them did. Sexual harassment and rape are
more of a reality than ever before, bad enough, to be a deterrent to any
progress. It is also the responsibility of the modern woman, to mould
the character of her sons, so that people of her own ilk, get a fighting
chance at life.
Understanding and empathetic men have also contributed a great deal to the progress of women, but as every man is not a Arunachalam Muruganantham,
many women have to fight their own battles. So, in passing I would
want to dedicate this Women's Day, and many more to come, to the common
Indian woman. As she bears her cross silently and alone, she is in most
cases oblivious to something called as 'Women's Day', as she happens to
live on a day to day basis, circumnavigating overflowing drains,
crisscrossing the city in public buses, at ration stores, in water
queues, and everywhere else, where we fail to look. She has little
access to education, decent habitation or hygiene. But she keeps the
fight alive, all in the name of hope, and a better future for the next
generation.
Though rendered with utmost sincerity, what I say, also happens to be a cliché!